I am a survivor of Domestic Violence. I say that first, because I don’t want you to think that your past will decide your future. Allow me to share a short version of my story, and I would love to hear your story as well!
I was married to my abuser for two years and the abuse was severe; physical, emotional and
mental. My abuser was the pastor of my church and a respected member of the community. Abuse was not something others were going to believe and when it was brought to their attention they didn’t.
On some days I was allowed one meal and one bathroom break. If I was allowed to go to work that was the best day until I noticed that time was 5pm and it was time to go home. I did not see my family for two years and
while I was allowed to talk them on the phone it was never without a listening ear on the other end.
The day I left, I had a seven-year old and a three-month old preemie that had just been discharged from the hospital. I left while my abuser was asleep after he had kept me up all night and trying to have me committed to a mental
hospital of all things. Finally at 5am he went to sleep, I crept downstairs and told my oldest daughter to pick on favorite toy to take on road trip.
I literally stood at the front door for 30 minutes crying before I decided to open it. The car I had at the time had no insurance, no tag, no registration the front wheel came off when you drove over 50 and it only held $3.00 worth of gas
I had my purse, three diapers, a can of milk and a car sit. The closes people I knew were over an hour away. I had no money to get to where I need to go and no one to help get me there.
I remember running to the car and just driving –until I was pulled over two miles later by a State Trooper after I told him my story he let me go on my way.
Needless to say I pressed charges and after not being able to find an attorney to represent me I learned the laws for the state I was in and I represented myself.
It was then I realized that I was stronger than I had ever imagined. It was my first step to finding the real me and it set me on my path of helping others.
So here we are 9 years later, I have helped many women and men along the way either through speaking about domestic violence or helping them become business owners or start nonprofits.
What is your story? I urge you to not let your past or your situation hold you back.
Don’t let your fear decide your destiny
I would love to hear your story or perhaps help you discover your story. Please leave your comments below and I will respond or if you prefer email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
I look forward to hearing your story!
As always if you of anyone who is abused please follow the safe way to help. Below is the link to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.
Remember that song? Of course you do! Friends are awesome! However, when it comes to friends and business sometimes things are NOT that awesome!
Take a look at the following scenario:
You and your friend have talked hours on end about the great business idea that you both have. A decision has to be made on how it is going to look, how everyone’s way life will change and how much better it’s going to be.
There is a BIG difference between being friends and being business partners. If your friend is a procrastinator now, they will be one when you are business together!
If they are too tired from work to work on the business – they will always be too tired.
Some questions to ask you and your potential partner:
1. Who is going to be the final decision maker?
2. Who will actually do the work of the business?
3. Who is in charge of the money and who will handle the finances?
4. What happens when one person is not pulling their weight in the business?
These questions are not meant to break up friendships however; it is a guide to help open discussions on important topics.
If you need help having that difficult conversation schedule your FREE 30 MINUTE CONSULTATION so that I can give you some pointers on how to get started.
REMEMBER YOUR IDEA OF SUCCESS AND COMMITMENT IS NOT THE SAME AS EVERYONE ELSE
J’Anmetra is uniquely positioned to understand the many nuisances business owners face when they’re just starting out. Coaching services are provided online, via email, in person, or via phone. As a survivor of Domestic Violence J'Anmetra has lived by the following quote that motivates her daily is from John Wooden